BANISH YOUR INNER BULLY (Life lessons for my 10 year old daughter)

BULLY BE GONE (life lessons for my 10 year old daughter)

This lesson is applicable to every human, who has ever had that BULLYING voice inside their head telling them they are stupid, or they can't or they are a failure, of too fat or too skinny, or not loveable or not successful enough.

A powerful chat that happened between my daughter and I.

Lucy has long hair and it’s getting quite dry, the hair dresser suggested to condition it and clip it up so we don’t wash all the conditioner out!

So I got her a big clip, so she could clip all her hair up for showers.

I gave the clip to her and sent her off for a shower, shortly after she comes storming in and she is ANGRY and she is in TEARS.


“I CANT DO IT MUM
I KEEP TRYING
THE CLIP KEEPS FALLING OUT
I JUST CANT DO IT!”

She was really visibly distraught and I knew there was something deeper going on.

Some deeper emotion that was behind it all.

Which we got to the bottom of - it made her feel silly and stupid that she couldn’t just do it.

It was her inner bully voice.

So I said what if it was your friend, who was trying to do something and you saw someone standing there yelling negative things at her. Lucy said, I would tell them to stop and that its not true and that they’re mean!

SO OFTEN we say things to ourselves we would never say to anyone else or would never let anyone say to us!!

CHALLENGE THAT VOICE.

Dig a little deeper and get curious about what’s deep behind the emotions. Often we will feel a certain way based on that inner belief (bully voice) that says we aren’t good enough.

Then tell the voice to back off, soften and give yourself some space and grace to be human and to LEARN… AND to KEEP TRYING.

You might of not had success with your health goals yet and most likely it’s just because you haven’t been shown how to approach it PROPERLY. Just like Lucy hadn’t been shown how to use the clip properly. But she learnt and she did it. Which all my clients do too, they finally learn PROPERLY how to be healthy, strong and energised and they do it, for good!!

You will learn and you will do it too.

BUT you have to combat that inner bully. Stand up to it, have your own back!!!

Just because you haven’t been able to do something in the past, you might of tried time and time again - does not mean you can’t achieve it in the future, you just have to listen to the right voice.

Have a watch and listen and if you would like to chat with me on this please send me a direct message!!

I look forward to hearing from you!

Julie xx

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